4/20/10
For the past 3 years I have been with a man whom I thought was the most wonderful person in the world....I gave him my heart, my soul, my love, my security-only to have it all be a lie! I thought I had the perfect marriage (Praise God it wasn't a legal one-how messy that would have been), and it turned out to be a complete lie. I trusted him with everything, including my children-BIG MISTAKE! About a month ago accusations started to fly that he had done something to 2 of my children....and it was a nightmare trying to believe and not believe at the same time....You never want to think that someone who you love so much would do something this disgusting to your little ones...For 3 weeks he swore up and down that it wasn't him, that he would never do this kind of thing, that it had to have been someone else....on and on and on....Finally after he was arrested and arraigned and I was finally able to get a copy of the complaint report and finally got to see exact details of what my kids said to social services and the detective and realized that there is no way in gods creation that this was made up or that someone else did it. After finally pulling the wool from in front of my eyes, I started to see this whole situation for what it was. This puke did things so unimaginable to my kids...I just can't even speak of them. It is bad enough to do something that heinous to a child, but you add to the fact that he did it to children that are autistic....
Update 6/24/10
So this past Monday (the 21st) was the court hearing where he was supposed to have made a plea....instead his public defender asked for a continuance because she didn't have his video confession. Even after the DA had sent it to her well over 2 weeks ago! So now the next court date is Wed. the 30th and this will be the one where he pleads. I pray that he does us right and pleads guilty. It has been a really rough road and I know it isn't the end, and that it won't go away just like that, but if he pleads guilty, at least the whole thing won't be drug out any longer! It is very unsettling that he will only get 30 years (apparently that is the max in Minnesota), it just doesn't seem fair- My kids will have to deal with this for the rest of their lives...they don't get time off for good behavior in this situation, but he might?! How is that punishing him? And the fact that he had my youngest perform acts on my middle son (who by the way is noverbal, very low functioning autistic), makes me sick to think that he could get just a slap on the hand....
And they can't even charge him with that one unless they find pictures of it, because my middle son can't talk and can't tell of it....we only found out about that because the skuz decided to admit it in his confession....seriously how sick is this man? Everyday I look at my children, I wonder what it must be like for them....How do they get through the day without constantly thinking about it? Or do they? As a parent of children who have been sexually abused, I can't get it out of my head, how do they do so well? Not to mention the fact that my oldest has been dx'ed with PTSD *(Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) because of all of this! Why can't they add on more time for this situation? I don't think it should be based upon whether or not they have had prior convictions.....I think the sentence should be based upon the severity of the crime....for example....if you are charged with multiple counts of abuse to more than one child...you should get prison time for each count, now add on top of that the fact that they are autistic, well there should be even more time than that, and than add on top the psychiatric therapy that the children plus the parent are going to need....well there is more time...per child, per count.....
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